15 May 2014

My Internet "Dating" Experience.

So It's been a while since I've been bothered to even look for a boyfriend or have any kind of a relationship, partly because I'm happy just by myself, I don't need some guy invading my space, but also because I honestly haven't been at all bothered, until recently. As crazy as it seems i'm almost 22 and although that is still young, I'm starting to feel like an "Adult" scary!! Majority of the people I went to school with, are married or in long term relationships with children, woah hold your horses there before you get ahead of yourselves! I still feel too young for that, but part of me is a tad jealous as they all seem so grown up and happy with their families and I don't really have anything. Now of course I'm not going to go out there grab any old guy get married and have kids, that's not me at all (much to my mother's disgust lol) and I don't even know if I want kids. The point is my life is passing by so quickly, and it would be nice to be able to share certain experiences with someone other than my cat! Although I do love him! So I thought about joining a couple online dating sites, not thinking anything of it, just as laugh, but my god, what an experience.

So I've come to the conclusion I'm either extremely naive or guys these days are just full on perverted (not all guys of course), maybe it's a bit of both. I'm not even exaggerating when I say 9 out of 10 guys on these sites are just interested in sex, I kind of knew you got weirdo's online and I can never imagine having a full on relationship with someone who I met through the internet as it creeps me out a bit, but I was truly shocked at the amount of guys with in seconds of messaging me were asking me for nude pics or asking me sexual questions, like seriously does that even work? Of course I just deleted them and ignored the messages but It did make me wonder is that what these kind of sites are used for? Call me old fashioned but I'm not into the one night stands, friends with benefits, sleeping with strangers, whatever you want to call it thing, It's just something I don't feel comfortable with, it grosses me out. I have nothing against people who do but for me it's wrong on so many levels. I know nowadays a lot of girls are just as bad as the guys when it comes to sleeping around, and maybe it's encouraged guys more, they feel it's okay to ask inappropriate questions because they sometimes get a response from it. I can safely say I'm not going to be talking/meeting guys online from these so called dating sites, or should I say "sexing sites".

I wasn't sure whether to do this or not, but I wanted to share some of the things I got asked as I had a laugh (mainly out of shock) at the balls of some of these guys. They were pretty upfront.

A 19 yr old: Send me a pic of you naked plz.
( I deleted)

A 51 yr old: Hey, you have beautiful eyes, Are you attracted to older men?
Me: Thank you. I guess, It depends on how old.
51 yr old: I'm 51. Your profile says your 5ft, Small girls turn me on, what are your sexiest features?
Me: Oh, you're quite a lot older than me then.
51 yr old: Yes, I'm very experienced I could teach you a lot, What are your sexiest spots?
( I deleted) Don't get me wrong, I don't mind older guys, but when they are older than your Dad that's just weird lmao.

32 yr old: I wish you were here.
Me: Why?
32 yr old: I'm feeling very horny.
( I deleted)

19 yr old: Send me a picture please, your profile pic won't show.
I send a picture (Of my FACE!)
19 yr old: I like, show me more of you with less clothes.
Me: No, you're alright.
19 yr old: Why?
Me: Because I don't even know you, I'm not into that.
19 yr old: Oh well you're not even that hot anyway. bye

25 yr old: What turns you on? You look like a girl who likes anal.
Me: Are you actually serious?
25 yr old: Yeah, I guess you're not into that then.
(I deleted)

22 yr old: Hey beautiful, fancy having cyber sex, would really turn me on.
Me: No..
(I deleted)

So there you have it, some of the messages I got, Atleast now you know not to do online dating. What a weird bunch of people.....or am I just old fashioned and naive? How can any girl find those kinds of messages attractive seriously. I'd love to know what your opinions are.


Bren Holmes said...

I love reading your blog. I'm old enough to be your grandmother (just!) and I admire your principles and style. I must say, the messages you've written about made me smile. I heard of corny chat up lines, but they are ridiculous. These men can't be very bright if they can even consider they'd get a result :-).
My son joined a dating site for a short period of time and he was pretty disgusted with his experience, too. It's amusing that the opposite sex can have a bad experience, too. He went on one date and described the experience as 'excruciating'.
Keep blogging. x

Becky King said...

Bren Holmes. Thank you for that lovely comment. I'd like to hope their are many girls out there who still have principles :) That is interesting about you son. I think you are either an online dater or not ha.

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